Cut the Stress

This whole point of beginning a new blog was to redefine my life and to stop being so negative. I haven’t been doing a very good job of this. I am letting work overwhelm me and my days being taken up by stress and constant battles to stay sane. This is the exact predicament I have been trying to escape! So it’s time to get back to focusing on how to better my life. Not to worry about what is happening at work 24/7 or to be sucked into the drama of others.

How has anyone else achieved this? Any tips? What is the best way you have found to balance work and home life? Or any tips on how to de-stress?

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Daily Prompt: Seconds!

Describe the most satisfying meal you’ve ever eaten, in glorious detail. 

via Daily Prompt: Seconds!.

I honestly have numerous occasions where I could say I had the most satisfying meal ever. But I will just give one story.

Itlay. 2010. During my semester abroad in Dublin (which I may go into detail about in upcoming posts), we, me and a friend from my home university who was also studying abroad, booked a 10 day trip to Italy. The trip was to begin in Milan and we were going to travel down Italy and end in Rome.

I know Italy is known for the delicious food, but I never comprehended that the food was going to be spectacular. Granted, at the time of the meal I am about to go in detail about, we had traveled 5 hours, gotten lost, got on the wrong bus, got lost some more, couldn’t find English speakers for the life of us, finally found where we were supposed to go, but couldn’t find the people we were supposed to meet….etc. Basically it was a long day. A long day with no food.

Finally we found who we were supposed to meet, my brother’s friend and her Italian fiance – Jocelyn and Giovanni. They both lived and worked in Milan, so they knew the area. They knew we were having a horrible first impression of the country, so they wanted to give us a taste of real Italian dining and friends.

They took us to a small Italian pizzeria for dinner with about 5 of their friends, where no one spoke English and if they did, it was very poor/broken English. Basically, we felt we were in over our heads. We had no idea what the menu said, what the people were saying, and we were sleep deprived and starving to make it worse. Jocelyn ordered a cheese pizza for us, making it a bit easier. When this pizza came out, I swear heaven’s doors opened. It was the most amazing smell that has ever touched my nose. After the first bite, it was confirmed. This was the best pizza I have ever had. The cheese melted in your mouth. The dough had just enough crispness, but wasn’t over done. Maybe it was because we had gone 12 hours with no food, but this was the most amazing meal I have ever had. To top it off, Jocelyn ordered Limoncello afterwards. Being my first time in Italy and I was only 21, I had no idea what this was. They brought out a shot glass with yellow liquid. So my first thought was, “Jocelyn is trying to get us drunk.” Just as I was about to shoot it, she quickly stopped me and told me just to sip. She then explained how it is common to drink this after dinner to help digest the food. This amazing discovery topped the night off with my tummy blissfully happy.

I must point out, that this was the only pizzeria place that actually had amazing pizza. The rest that we tried throughout Italy were not so fantastic. So, I’m not sure if it was because we were starving or if it really was the best pizza ever eaten, but Milan definitely had the best pizza on earth.

I’m serious when I say I tried pizza everywhere in Italy….

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Big Wheels Keep On Turning.

car

Exciting things are happening! And great timing at that. What better time to get a new car than while trying to re-start my life with a clean slate? This has been a long time coming. I have driven a ’99 Toyota Corolla for the past 8 years. Before I got a hold of this car, it belonged to my brother who bought it brand new. He ran this car to the ground, so by the time i got it, it already had over 100,000 miles, a ripped up ceiling, cigarette burnt seats, broken door handles, and the list goes on. It wasn’t a looker, but I did love this car for a while. His (yes, it is a he) name is Raphael…after the ninja turtle. He’s bad ass. And so was this car.

But after 14 years of clinging onto life, it was time to let go. So now enters a 2008 Mazda Tribute. It’s not brand new, but it is loaded. It has heated leather seats, a sunroof, six-disc CD player, power locks, windows, cruise control…basically everything I was living without in the other car. Still haven’t named it yet, or even decided if I want it to be a boy or a girl. This is my project for the next couple of days. 🙂 I am one happy girl.

Staying Positive

I think this is one of my biggest challenges in life right now. It’s hard to stay positive when you feel the world around you is crumbling. For instance, at this moment:

  • I am living in a city where I don’t really have friends, my best friend who did live here is now in Australia for three months.
  • I am not in the “dream job” I hoped to have. In fact, most days I dread going to work.
  • Me and the roommate aren’t getting along, or speaking for that matter.
  • I have student loans that I seem to be drowning in. I can barely afford to pay rent, yet alone the ginormous amount of loans I have.
  • Me and my boyfriend fight, it’s normal, but I would like for us to not be at each other’s throats for petty stuff.
  • In general, I feel completely and utterly alone at this point in my life.

You see how pessimistic I have become??? All I can focus on is what seems to be going wrong. Usually I would sit here and cry about it. Which doesn’t solve anything. At all. Only makes it worse.

So this is my challenge: find the positive. Like I said before, this blog is to mark a new beginning. I need to change my life around, back to a happy place. Back to a place where I enjoy being alive every single day. And I think staying positive, even when everything isn’t going my way is the place to start and the key.

So here is the list again, but with the positives:

  • Yes, my best friend is halfway around the world and I miss her like crazy. But I can still skype with her. She is also going to have some amazing stories when she gets home and I can’t wait to hear them. 🙂 …also, I want her to bring me a kangaroo.
  • Yes, it’s not my “dream job”. But I HAVE a job. There are some people I graduated with who are still looking and working in retail. I am still young. At least I have my foot in the door and can gain that experience that will lead to the job I want.
  • My roommate is one of my good friends. We met in college, went to Ireland together, and have been friends ever since. The reason we aren’t talking is because of a grudge being held. I have made it clear I let everything go, I am over the situation, and I apologized. It seems to have not been accepted and there is nothing I can do about that. It is not my fault she is still mad. I tried my best to handle conflict in an adult way, but it wasn’t reciprocated. I am the type of person to makes sure everyone around me is happy. In this situation, I tried to resolve it to make both of us happy, eventually giving into her side. I did my best. I tried. But if it doesn’t work out, then all I need to know is that I tried. This is usually a hard concept for me to grasp, but surprisingly I feel good about it. So whenever she feels like coming around, I’ll be waiting.
  • Bills, bills bills. Can’t afford to pay my bills. Seriously. I finally get a decent amount of money in my account, then it is taken away by the end of the month with the stack of bills….hard to see the positive in this. But at least I have an income to pay these bills. Yes, I am left with very little each month…but I am still left with something. Luckily I have a very supportive family that will help me out if I ever need it. Not that I ever want to ask, but if it came down to it, they will never let me drown.
  • Yes, I have boyfriend drama. I make it into a bigger deal than it really is. But I’m a girl. It’s what we do. But it is something I am working on. Coinciding with this blog, we are working on our relationship. We are both trying to be better people, nicer to each other, and showing our love more. So far it has been working. As I am trying to stay positive, I am not getting angry about little things or trying to start fights. In the end, I know we love each other, we just forget it when life gets a little crazy.
  • Lastly, I feel alone. I am in a new city (kinda…I went to college 30 minutes away), but most of my friends have graduated. How do you make new friends in a new city?? Well, this is one mission I have yet to accomplish. But I am positive that I can accomplish it…I think this can be considered a positive outlook on the situation? 🙂

Step 1: almost complete. I know this is basically just me talking to myself, but I would love any advice on how you stay positive or bring yourself up when everything seems to be going wrong.