Proud New Mama!

I can not believe I haven’t posted in over a month. I had high hopes to finally begin writing again, and I never have time!

Life has gotten a little crazy lately. Work is busy and exhausting. The bills are piling up. It’s getting difficult trying to please family and friends that want to see me (and all live in different cities). AND I now have a little baby. 😀

Well, not a baby, but I am now the proud parent of a 5 month old Dachshund. 🙂 His name is Odie. I adopted him from Chapman’s Dachshund Rescue in York, SC, which is a wonderful organization. Definitely check out their Facebook page, donate, or just “Like” all the cuties. 🙂 https://www.facebook.com/pages/Chapmans-Dachshund-Rescue/246168762076316?fref=ts

But here he is! And I am sure I will be posting a lot of this little stinker’s face.

odie

Busy Bee.

When I started this blog, I had so much on my mind and so many topics I wanted to talk about. I never thought life would get this busy and leave me with little to no time to get this blog going. But work is getting hectic, on average working over 50 hours a week. By the time I get home, after I make dinner, and clean whatever mess there is in the apartment, I just want to sleep or just relax and read. I have been so busy that there is honestly nothing of importance on my mind anymore.

I feel like I have started to go through life living in this routine of going to work, coming home, get a good half hour of actual “bonding time” with Phil, then I’m ready for bed. This is not what I was planning for in adult life.

When you have a busy work life, how do you make time for yourself? What are some things Phil and I can do together after a busy work day for both of us? Any suggestions would be helpful because this monotonous routine and lack of stimulation is beginning to wear me down.

The Melting Pot.

Not sure if everyone has heard of The Melting Pot. But it is a fondue restaurant and they have locations all over the US. Well, me and Phil decided to give it a try last Friday. It was our “montherversary”, not really an anniversary, but it marked 2 years and 3 months, so we decided to have a nice date night.

What sparked this date night was a video posted by Olan Rogers (who is hilarious). He tells an exaggerated story of his experience at The Melting Pot when he took his girlfriend. The video cracked me up and I had to show Phil. From there, we were naturally curious to experience it for ourselves.

Basically, everything Olan describes is true. The waiters come sneaking up out of the darkness. We pay a significant amount of money, only to cook our own meal, and the pillow mints are too tempting to not steal a handful.

The food was delicious. My favorite part was the chocolate fondue. I was so mad for eating too much beforehand with the cheese fondue, I didn’t get to enjoy the chocolate and desserts as much as I wanted. The only reason I would ever go back to The Melting Pot is for this chocolate fondue. Other than that, I think it was way over priced, and didn’t give you enough food for the amount on money we were spending.

Dream Job No More.

I didn’t take the job. The agency was offering 6K less than I make now and after weighing the pros and cons, there were more cons in taking the job. I am still not sure if I made the right decision. I am the type of person that will stress over this for the next 8 months. But maybe something better will come out of this. I am back to the plan of moving with Phil when he goes to Raleigh. Maybe there will be more opportunities there. Or maybe I will actually make a good group of friends and begin to be happy. Who knows. But I am kind of excited and ready for October to get here and begin this journey.

Job Dilemma.

I am just curious. What is everyone’s view on job searching while already holding a job? I am just trying to understand the ethics of this in making a big decision for my life.

I have a feeling this is going to be a long post as I try to organize my thoughts, so please bear with me or feel free to stop right here and just give me your general opinions. 🙂

I currently hold a position as a marketing assistant at an engineering firm in Charlotte. It has been a great starter job and I have learned a lot. But I know this isn’t a position I want to be in forever. Some days being at this job is unbearable. But it does have it’s perks: I have my own office, my boss and the other marketing assistant I work with are both very nice, I am encouraged to join local marketing associations and the company pays for my membership, there are some down days where I can work on my personal projects (like writing this for example), I have the ability to transfer offices if I want (they have offices throughout the Carolinas), and my boss is very understanding of taking days off or working from home, etc.

While this job has so many perks, the downfall is that I am miserable here. I do not enjoy the actual job itself and I am certain it is not what I want to be doing with my life. I love the people I work with, they are all very nice to me, but I am 24 and the closest person to my age is 28. I am the only one in the office not married. And the majority of the employees here are 40 year old men. So it is a little hard to interact and relate to my co-workers. If I am here 80% of my day, I feel like I should have “friends” or at least relate to the people I am working with.

I apply for jobs randomly when I see any that interest me, but I never expect a phone call back. Well, last week, I got a phone call from a marketing agency for an account manager position. I feel like this is a job I would like to do – working in an actual agency, but I can’t be sure since I have never had that experience before. The employees at this agency are young, the job seems like it would interest me, and it is a new career path I think would suit me.

So it seems like I should jump on this opportunity and dive headfirst for this job, but here is my dilemma. And please don’t judge me for it. I have been with my boyfriend, Phil, for over 2 years – we have known each other for over 7 years. He lives with me now and has a really good job with the department of transportation. In October, he has to transfer to Raleigh for his job. Since the company I am with now has an office in Raleigh, the plan was for me to transfer as well and go with him. We had done the long distance relationship while we were in college for the past 2 years and now that we are in the adult world, I don’t know if I can do it anymore. I just want to finally be with him. I know it is stupid to follow a boy and not think about yourself first, I always judge people for that, but I do love him and know I will not be truly happy without him. Everything seemed set into place, until I got a call for this interview.

It’s not to say that I even have this job, but I feel I should think about all of this before anything unfolds (I am a planner). Reason would tell me to jump on this opportunity, yet in my heart I don’t want to. If I jump on this, I will have to stay in Charlotte, but I am not sure I even want to. I have a great thing going with the position I am in now, yet I hate the job.

I guess I will have to balance these pro’s and con’s a lot more the next couple days. I am the most indecisive person, so this will be torture. Torture not only because I hate making decisions, but because I hate letting people down. If I do decide to take this position, I have no idea how to face my boss. She has stuck up for me and has taught me so much at this job. This is why I am wondering what the ethics are in applying/interviewing for other jobs.