Job Dilemma.

I am just curious. What is everyone’s view on job searching while already holding a job? I am just trying to understand the ethics of this in making a big decision for my life.

I have a feeling this is going to be a long post as I try to organize my thoughts, so please bear with me or feel free to stop right here and just give me your general opinions. 🙂

I currently hold a position as a marketing assistant at an engineering firm in Charlotte. It has been a great starter job and I have learned a lot. But I know this isn’t a position I want to be in forever. Some days being at this job is unbearable. But it does have it’s perks: I have my own office, my boss and the other marketing assistant I work with are both very nice, I am encouraged to join local marketing associations and the company pays for my membership, there are some down days where I can work on my personal projects (like writing this for example), I have the ability to transfer offices if I want (they have offices throughout the Carolinas), and my boss is very understanding of taking days off or working from home, etc.

While this job has so many perks, the downfall is that I am miserable here. I do not enjoy the actual job itself and I am certain it is not what I want to be doing with my life. I love the people I work with, they are all very nice to me, but I am 24 and the closest person to my age is 28. I am the only one in the office not married. And the majority of the employees here are 40 year old men. So it is a little hard to interact and relate to my co-workers. If I am here 80% of my day, I feel like I should have “friends” or at least relate to the people I am working with.

I apply for jobs randomly when I see any that interest me, but I never expect a phone call back. Well, last week, I got a phone call from a marketing agency for an account manager position. I feel like this is a job I would like to do – working in an actual agency, but I can’t be sure since I have never had that experience before. The employees at this agency are young, the job seems like it would interest me, and it is a new career path I think would suit me.

So it seems like I should jump on this opportunity and dive headfirst for this job, but here is my dilemma. And please don’t judge me for it. I have been with my boyfriend, Phil, for over 2 years – we have known each other for over 7 years. He lives with me now and has a really good job with the department of transportation. In October, he has to transfer to Raleigh for his job. Since the company I am with now has an office in Raleigh, the plan was for me to transfer as well and go with him. We had done the long distance relationship while we were in college for the past 2 years and now that we are in the adult world, I don’t know if I can do it anymore. I just want to finally be with him. I know it is stupid to follow a boy and not think about yourself first, I always judge people for that, but I do love him and know I will not be truly happy without him. Everything seemed set into place, until I got a call for this interview.

It’s not to say that I even have this job, but I feel I should think about all of this before anything unfolds (I am a planner). Reason would tell me to jump on this opportunity, yet in my heart I don’t want to. If I jump on this, I will have to stay in Charlotte, but I am not sure I even want to. I have a great thing going with the position I am in now, yet I hate the job.

I guess I will have to balance these pro’s and con’s a lot more the next couple days. I am the most indecisive person, so this will be torture. Torture not only because I hate making decisions, but because I hate letting people down. If I do decide to take this position, I have no idea how to face my boss. She has stuck up for me and has taught me so much at this job. This is why I am wondering what the ethics are in applying/interviewing for other jobs.